I help people who have been affected by trauma take back control of their lives.
We work together to understand how the trauma has impacted them and their emotions, thoughts and actions.
I help my clients to work through their pain, learn to cope, and at the end move on to live a happier life where they are in control.
Do you want to live a life free from the pain of trauma, past or present?
Would you like to live a happy, fulfilling life in the present, claiming your life back?
You deserve to live a life free from the hurt, anxiety and pain caused by trauma.
Free from triggers that make you feel frustrated, sad, hurt, confused and more. Recovery is possible. Therapy can help stop your suffering, accept your reality and be free to move on to build the life you want.
I can help you to take back control over your emotions and memories. You can let go of the resentment, hurt, betrayal, sadness and control issues you may have.
You will be able to understand your triggers to the point they don’t cause you distress.
No more denial or avoidance but acceptance and understanding from your own perspective, while learning the benefits of self-awareness and self-care.
You just need to be ready to do the work.
What is Trauma?
Trauma is a natural reaction that can be emotional, psychological and physical in response to distressing, abnormal or extremely stressful events. These events may leave us feeling scared, overwhelmed, betrayed, confused or helpless to name a few reactions.
The impact of trauma varies from person to person. We are all different with our own thresholds for stress, anxiety etc.
We respond to trauma in a variety of ways; emotionally, physically and psychologically;
- Emotional responses – anger. Denial. Fear. Guilt. Hypervigilance. Shame.
These can manifest in a variety of ways depending on how well we are able to process the trauma - nightmares, flashbacks, verbal outbursts, emotional meltdowns or how we interact with others ranging from shutting people out to becoming overly dependent on them.
- Physical responses - a pit in your stomach. Changes in your breathing. Gastrointestinal problems such as heartburn, stomach cramps, diarrhoea or constipation. Headaches. Loss/increase in appetite. Muscle tension. Nausea. Shaking. Sweating.
- Psychologically we may develop addictions in an attempt to self-sooth or self-medicate. Anxiety. Depression. Dissociation. PTSD.
These responses can all be interlinked – we feel scared emotionally, physically we get stomach cramps, nausea and our breathing may change and this could then be put down to the psychological response of anxiety.
Regardless of when the trauma happened, it can be overcome. Just because you’ve lived with it all your life, doesn’t mean you have to live the rest of your life with it.
Therapy can be a good, safe place to work through it, get a better understanding of how it has affected you and to get yourself to a place of acceptance to be able to move on.
When I talk about acceptance, I don’t mean it is ok what happened, or you have to forgive someone; some people don’t deserve forgiveness. Acceptance means you are acknowledging it happened and working through it rather than avoiding thinking about it. Avoidance and denial only prolong your pain and suffering. Once you work through your trauma and accept it, you can decide the best way possible to move forward.
Examples of Trauma
Trauma can be caused by many things. The list below is just a few examples and remember, trauma is different for everyone.
Abuse – childhood, domestic, gaslighting, neglect, psychological, sexual, verbal, violence. Bereavement. Betrayal. Bigotry. Bullying. Coming out to others about our gender or sexuality (The trauma may be more to do with the person we are telling, not coming out).
Discrimination of any type. Family feuds. Financial worries. Harassment or any kind. Health issues. Health scares. Homelessness. Job loss. Life changing events. New job. Prejudice. Racism. Relationship breakdowns. Relocation. Road Traffic Accidents. Stalking. Suicide. Threats of injury. Threats to life. Terrorism. War. Witnessing a traumatic event, not just experiencing it.